Aspirations Start with Self-Acceptance

Margit Cathrine Moller

Like the rest of the estimated two billion people all over the world, I watched with fascination the Royal Wedding of Prince William and Catherine Middleton. I cannot help but reflect on the relevance of the royal family in the life of the whole humanity today.

I come from Denmark and we do have our own royal family. Remember, Hamlet was a Danish prince. Just recently, people in Copenhagen were charmed by the little Danish Princess who turned 4 a week ago. She is daughter of Crown Princess Mary and her father Crown Prince Frederik. Isabella, who has younger twin siblings, reminds me that royalty is here to stay.

Perhaps politicians and ideologue will debate about the role of monarchy in a democratic society, but I will not go into that. My own reflection led me to acknowledge how royalty has shifted from icons of power to models of humanity.

Every girl wanted to be a princess; but there is only one Kate Middleton. It is all right to aspire to be someone else, but it should not be because of our discontentment with who we are. Everyone is free to aspire to be the President, the manager, the best wife, the head cheerleader, the team captain. If these aspirations motivate us to push ourselves to be more, it is well and good.

But aspirations should not be based on self-rejection, but rather on self-acceptance. It is like climbing up a staircase – accepting and being proud of who we are and what we have at present provides a solid springboard for us the leap into the next step. Without self-acceptance, we have a hollow, unstable ground to take off from, and that won’t get us anywhere.